No Matter What You’re Facing, You’ve Got This. God’s Got You.
by Tracie Miles
Today’s post is a partial excerpt from best selling author Tracie Miles’ newest release, Living Unbroken: Reclaiming Your Life and Your Heart After Divorce. Read to the end of the post to find how to enter to win one of three free copies for you, a friend or loved one!
You were married; now you’re not.
You once had a life partner; now you don’t. You thought you’d grow old together; now you wonder if you’ll be alone forever. Maybe your husband had an affair and left you. Maybe you had an affair. Maybe he said he didn’t love you anymore or told you he was in love with someone else. Or maybe you simply grew apart.
Regardless of how your singleness came to be, you’re struggling. Hurting so deeply it feels worse than physical pain. You’re drowning in confusion about how your spouse could do this to you and your children, or how you got to this place. You feel more alone than you ever have. The future that once seemed secure now looks terrifying. You don’t know who you are anymore. You hate this unfamiliar life you’re stuck in. You wonder if you’ll ever get over what happened. Will you even survive?
You feel broken and lost, and you long to feel whole and happy again, but happiness may seem impossible right now. Like a thing of the past. You may feel as if nobody understands your pain. You may be feeling judged, misunderstood, embarrassed—or dispos able, unlovable, not enough, and tossed aside. You likely feel scared and all alone on this unknown path, this journey you never wanted to be on.
Friend, I get it. I’ve been there too. That is exactly where I found myself just over five years ago when my marriage of twenty five years crumbled practically overnight and life forever changed.
But over time and a lot of work and faith, I’ve discovered that in spite of how you may think and feel right now, you can feel whole and happy again. Even though it seems like the life you knew is over—and in some ways it is—life itself is not over. There is so much good in store for you, including happiness. No matter what devastating circumstances we may face in life, we do not have to live in brokenness.
Maybe you don’t know this end of marriage stress firsthand, and for that, I am so thankful for you. But…. I bet you know someone who does. Everyone knows someone, whether a co-worker, friend or loved one, who has suffered through the painful journey of enduring the end of a marriage and living in the wake of destruction in the aftermath of its implosion.
I vividly recall searching the internet for books that could speak to my pain and comfort my heart. I longed for encouraging words from a woman who had been in my shoes, who knew my deepest pain points, who knew what I was feeling and the reassurances I needed to hear. Someone who knew what words of encouragement would shift my heart to a better place. A woman who understood and could help me climb out of this pit, one scraped knee after another, and start putting the fragments of my broken heart and life back together.
I was so hungry to learn from someone who had experienced and survived the intense emotional pain that cut deeper than any physical pain ever could, and even through the power of words, hold me up when I couldn’t hold myself up and give me an infusion of hope, peace, and spiritual support.
I so remember thinking, “I just need a girlfriend to say, “Tracie, I know this is hard, but I promise you will be okay. You will survive and here’s how. In fact, in time, you will be better than okay. You will be happy again and thriving. You’ve got this. God’s got you. Let’s do this together.”
I never found that book – so I decided to write it myself. As writers, when God calls, we write.
God has a history of turning pain into purpose and this time was no different. He instilled in me a passion to help other women stumbling along behind me, feeling tired and battered, who now need me to be that friend I once longed for. He is forever building stories in our lives and the time will always come when we are called to share them.
Living Unbroken: Reclaiming Your Heart and Your Life After Divorce releases today, February 1, 2021! Order today and receive five incredible free gifts including journals, workbooks and beautiful artwork to help you or a loved one kickstart their journey of hope, healing and happiness.
WIN ONE OF THREE FREE COPIES OF LIVING UNBROKEN! Just leave a comment below by February 19th and share how you feel yourself or someone you know might benefit from this amazing new resource for someone going through separation or divorce. Winners announced February 22nd!
Facing a different situation than separation or divorce but still struggling to love the life you’re living? Life is a gift, and it can be good no matter what we are facing. Check out Tracie’s other recent releases below for faith fueled inspiration:
LOVE LIFE AGAIN: FINDING JOY WHEN LIFE IS HARD
UNSINKABLE FAITH: GOD-FILLED STRATEGIES TO TRANSFORM THE WAY YOU THINK, FEEL AND LIVE
About Tracie Miles
Tracie Miles is an Author of four best selling books and a writer for the Encouragement for Today devotions with Proverbs 31 Ministries which reach millions of women per day with God’s Word. She is also the Director of COMPEL Training at Proverbs 31 Ministries where she teaches other women how to follow their call from God to write and pursue their God-given publishing dreams. Tracie has 3 grown children and lives in Charlotte, North Carolina. You can connect with Tracie on her blog at www.traciemiles.com and on all social media outlets.
A Great Way to Support Someone Called to Be A Writer
May 10, 2019
I was given your book Love life again for my birthday November 2019 almost two years ago from a long time girlfriend. I wondered,”How does she know?” I thought I was hiding my devastation from my husband’s affair and unsure of what to do and what to make of my life. I hadn’t shared this with my family and even my grown children were in the dark. Or so I thought… Private pain isn’t private. It seems it was written on my face and clear in my actions, or lack of actions. I self isolated and rarely left the house. I became fearful and anxious. I longed to share, to know I was not alone, to hear words of compassion, solid advice and Desperate for comfort. Breathing felt like the only thing I could manage. Your book blessed me with these desires and I have recommended it to many! I look forward to reading your new book ASAP. As of today I am still married. Living in the same house but separately. This doesn’t feel sustainable. The writing feels like it’s on the walls. To hear from you that I don’t have to live broken and good days are in my future are priceless! Hope for tomorrow is what I hear. Thank you for your writings. I hear your compassion in your words. God bless you and you are going to bless so many with this new book!
I have several lovely, young friends who are going through, or who have recently gone through, very painful divorces. All are believers. All are heartbroken, devastated, and completely shocked and “frozen” by it. I’d love to offer them this resource. I cannot fully relate to their specific pain, but I know it hurts even me to know of their loss and feelings of rejection, so I cannot imagine the depth of their pain. I want to see it healed, and certainly want to offer deep, real encouragement.
I absolutely love all three of these books! I went through a divorce in 2019 after 27 years of marriage and found these books were exactly what I needed!
I would love any or all of these 3 books!
What an awesome introduction to an incredible resource for women who have or are currently going through the pain of divorce. My cousin, well pretty much my sister, is in the beginning stages of a divorce. I think this is a story she needs to hear so she remembers she is not alone. I am able to be a listening to her but not truly relate. She needs a girlfriend to say “you’ve got this. God’s got you.” Thank you for your willingness to share your story and create an opportunity for some lucky lady to get a free copy. Be blessed always.
Hello, Yes I feel your pain exactly. I have been separated for 7 months and in a 2 year struggle of recovery from a very hurtful affair. I have also longed for someone to say those exact words.